What is healing? One thing that I ponder every day, which truly triggers my deep curiosity, is why so few devote their time and energy to healing. So many start the journey and either don’t heal or simply give it up.

So what does healing really mean? You may think of a disease in the body that no longer exists, or childhood trauma that no longer causes you anger or pain.

We can agree that healing is a process of creating freedom from pain, physical, mental, and emotional. Here are some of my short definitions of healing:

Healing is the return to wholeness.Healing is remembering our essence and innocence.

Healing is letting go of the past. Healing is letting go of fear.

How do we move from hurting to healing?

What I describe as hurt is that uncomfortable feeling of sadness, anger, disappointment. We experience these heated emotions in our bodies that take over our brain and our bodies. In this emotional state, we often find ourselves caught in a cycle of rumination, self-justification, and judgment toward others. We want he/she to fix, to mend that for us so we can go back to balance and calm.” “We want he/she to fix that for us so we can go back to balance and calm.” Let me translate this in the language of our wound or the younger self:

“I need you to make me feel safe again because this situation reminds me the times I felt abandoned, hurt, neglected, unseen, unheard….”Dr. Gabor Maté says that when we are upset, it is rarely, if ever about the present moment. In the upset, our emotions are rarely rooted in the present moment; instead, they are rooted in our past. In my work we call this baggage.

John Lennon said, "Love is All You Need" Do you realize that it is all about Love? Early on in childhood we lose ourselves, we disconnect from our bodies, from our essence , we develop limiting beliefs, we experience trauma, develop neurosis....all because of the loss of love and connection? It all starts with the loss of love and our journey of healing is a journey of returning to Love. As Gabor Maté says, we get hurt in relationships, we heal in relationships. This is a true statement.