Why can’t I stick with that fitness program? Why do I feel so flat and unproductive? What is wrong with me?

Do you hear these questions weekly or even daily? Are you being hard on yourself?

In a society that constantly values high performance and productivity, it's tough not to feel inadequate. This pressure only adds to the exhaustion so many people are feeling, ultimately leading to burnout. Many of us carry the deep-seated belief of “I am not good enough,” and this belief only intensifies when we're unable to keep up with the relentless pace of life.

But here's the truth: there is nothing wrong with you. If anything, it's the system that pushes us to overdrive, equating success with financial gains and external accolades.

“You lack nothing. ”That's right. You lack nothing—there is no lack of love, abundance, or resources within you.

You might think, How is that possible when I don’t have enough money for bills, feel alone, or am exhausted with no energy to change or create anything?

Let’s explore who is perceiving this lack in your life. Is it you? Your mind? Your beliefs? Is it the meanings you attach to everything?

It’s our body-mind system that perceives lack—this great illusion that tells us there isn’t enough. This started in childhood when we lost touch with our essence and authenticity, shaped by parents who, themselves, were caught in the illusion. We believed we weren’t enough, and this strengthened the ego within us.

The more I walk this path of healing and transformation, the more I understand the states of the spirit, which I call the states of the Heart.

The states of the Heart are peace, joy, love, and freedom. Most of us spend at least half of our lives chasing external things with the promise of acquiring these states.

I will not be the first or last to tell you that no matter what you achieve in the material world, whether it’s a sexy spouse or millions of dollars, you will not necessarily experience those states. This realization leaves many in despair and depression.

The chase for things is the business of the egoic mind, which is purely attached to the body. The more we are attached and identified with the body, the further we are from the Heart-Spirit. We live in a split state.

If you are seeking help with stress management, well-being, and healing, or dealing with significant challenges in your life, you may be questioning whether you need a therapist or a life coach.

You might be considering a life coach because your previous experience with therapy didn't yield the results you wanted. Conversely, you might have worked with a life coach who focused on positive mindset but didn't achieve optimal results.

I am sharing these insights to clarify the dilemma of “who can really help me?”

Let's first focus on the main differences between a life coach and a psychotherapist.Education and Credentials

What is healing? One thing that I ponder every day, which truly triggers my deep curiosity, is why so few devote their time and energy to healing. So many start the journey and either don’t heal or simply give it up.

So what does healing really mean? You may think of a disease in the body that no longer exists, or childhood trauma that no longer causes you anger or pain.

We can agree that healing is a process of creating freedom from pain, physical, mental, and emotional. Here are some of my short definitions of healing:

Healing is the return to wholeness.Healing is remembering our essence and innocence.

Healing is letting go of the past. Healing is letting go of fear.

How do we move from hurting to healing?

What I describe as hurt is that uncomfortable feeling of sadness, anger, disappointment. We experience these heated emotions in our bodies that take over our brain and our bodies. In this emotional state, we often find ourselves caught in a cycle of rumination, self-justification, and judgment toward others. We want he/she to fix, to mend that for us so we can go back to balance and calm.” “We want he/she to fix that for us so we can go back to balance and calm.” Let me translate this in the language of our wound or the younger self:

“I need you to make me feel safe again because this situation reminds me the times I felt abandoned, hurt, neglected, unseen, unheard….”Dr. Gabor Maté says that when we are upset, it is rarely, if ever about the present moment. In the upset, our emotions are rarely rooted in the present moment; instead, they are rooted in our past. In my work we call this baggage.