Why do we fear the Truth?
“Love is Truth. Truth is Love.” A. H. Almaas
Hello, beautiful humans!
I hope you are having a great week.
"Great" does not necessarily mean "all is always good." It means you can embrace the good and the bad with courage and compassion.
Many of us have been "tested"; we have been facing big challenges. These major challenges usually revolve around areas of relationships, career, money, and/or health.
I am certainly being challenged - invited to grow in a couple of these areas.
Can you navigate the challenges and keep your heart open? Can you show up for yourself with compassion and acceptance?
Can you sit in the center of your emotions without distracting yourself with work, food, alcohol, people, or TV noise?
Can you feel it all and not escape?
I had a hard day yesterday where parts of me wanted to escape, and yet, I didn't. It is not a choice for me, as much as my ego wanted it to be.
What is in the center of our heated, hard emotions?
Why would we want to sit in that fire? That is a question that I hope you pondered while reading this.
The truth is, we sit inside our own fire to find the truth.
What is the source of that fire? The source of that anger, sadness, hurt, fear?
Can you handle the truth that you will find there?
Colonel Jessup - portrayed by Jack Nicholson - a movie character in the film "A Few Good Men," screams in this incredible scene where he is being questioned by Kaffee - played by Tom Cruise - "You can't handle the truth." (Find that scene HERE)
Most people do not want to go to therapy, see a life coach, or engage in any inner work because of the fear of feeling.
What if the gem of truth that sets us free lies within those buried feelings? In my experience and all my studies of stress and disease, trauma and spirituality, feeling guides us towards healing if we are willing to acknowledge the truth.
Why do we fear the truth?
Simply put, we fear the truth because it often points us towards our hidden shame, our shadow, our secrets, our denial. And once we begin exploring that, the truth will also push us to change. That change can be terrifying because that voice of change may ask:
- Leave this relationship
- Quit the job
- Let that family member or friend go
- Confront the one you love
- Stop that addiction that is destroying your health
In other words, with truth, we risk loss.
Can you tell the truth and live with the risk of loss?
What would you choose? Losing yourself, betraying yourself, or losing the habit, the person, the job?
Choice – we have the power of choice. Any choice leads to consequences, which you may label as good or bad.
Truth is my rudder. It is a hard commitment and yet, it is a forever marriage. It takes work, and some days I cry in this work. That is truth. Our tears reveal our pain and, at the same time, hold the power to cleanse us, to remove another veil that blocks us from the truth, from love, and from authenticity.
So, beautiful friends, where do you stand in this conversation?
Do you want the truth, or do you crave instant rewards and illusions of pleasure?
Life sometimes compels us to take a deep look within.
I invite you to reflect, to be brutally honest with yourself.
Here are some thought-provoking questions to explore:
- Do the same patterns keep repeating in your life?
- Are you putting in the work, but no change occurs?
- Do you find yourself having the same heated conversations with your partner?
- Are you trapped in bad habits that harm your health?
- Do you grapple with imposter syndrome?
- Are your actions aligned with your values and vision?
Do you desire to learn how to build more resilience and how to sit with your emotions?
I will soon be starting a 6-week group coaching program. Stay tuned.
"Truth is Love. Love is Truth."
By A.H. Almaas:
Wishing you courage.
Much love,
Alex.