We yearn for the freedom to be our authentic selves, to experience love in its purest form, and to align our thoughts and actions with our core values. We desire the freedom of expression, allowing us to pursue our passions and make that our daily calling - a career. I call this the liberation of our heart and mind. What gets in the way of our freedom? Fear. As a devotee of Love, my role, when engaged by a client, is to guide them toward identifying and dismantling the barriers that obstruct their ability to feel, embody, and live a life filled with love.

Most people do not want to go to therapy, see a life coach, or engage in any inner work because of the fear of feeling.

What if the gem of truth that sets us free lies within those buried feelings? In my experience and all my studies of stress and disease, trauma and spirituality, feeling guides us towards healing if we are willing to acknowledge the truth.

Why do we fear the truth?

Many of my clients and friends often express discouragement, wondering how they can change their reactions and behaviors that no longer serve them. They feel trapped in patterns of anger and frustration and finally surrender, saying, "I don't know how."

I can relate to their struggles because I, too, have experienced moments of frustration in my therapist/teacher's office and even during my introspective times alone. Trying hard to change ourselves and the outcomes in our lives, we sometimes feel as though we are not making any progress. This can lead us to believe that something is wrong with us.

We don’t feel safe .Covid times amplified the sense of “I am not safe” for many people. People who were already struggling with fear related to trust, closeness and social engagements became even more fearful. The message all day long in the news was very strong - “Don’t be with people, they may make you sick and you may even die.” We stoped listening to each other The polarization became so bad that we could not just have a conversation about our different ideas and learn from each other. True connection carries compassion and curiosity. Can we get curious instead of judgmental? It is a choice.

In a state of curiosity and compassion we say things like “tell me more”, or “talk to me about your beliefs behind that decision”. In a state of fear and separation we judge, we shame, we react. We make others wrong.

What I call madness is the anxieties of our society, the constant chase for validation and the rumination in the mind about what others think. I caught myself in this madness before. I know what it feels like and where it all comes from and if we don’t deal with it, it drives us to madness, drama and unnecessary pain. What is underneath your over drive to achieve goals so you get the validation that you are successful? What is underneath the addictive habit of giving to others so you get the validation that you are good and your are liked? What is underneath the anxious mind ruminating on what your boyfriend said to validate if you are loved and sexy enough?